By now most of you are aware of Davido’s paternity scandal where a young woman has accused him of being the father of her child, which makes it his third child by three different women. Davido has emphatically denied this allegation, he insists he has previously taken a test which disproves her claim, and he says he will not subject himself to any future tests even though she claims the test was rigged. See previous article: ‘Davido in another paternity mess: Can Dr. Adeleke work on teaching his son self-discipline?‘ to get caught up.
The woman or her agents must have read and/or listened to The Africa Music Law Show Episode 90 because she has now released a statement, through the latest interview with Punch Newspaper, saying she will be dragging Davido to court so he can take responsibility for his alleged child. What’s interesting about her statement is that she reveals, in more details, her encounter with Davido and what particularly stands out is her statement about Davido’s insistence on having unprotected sex, and his alleged rationalization that he gets tested every “two weeks” so he is not worried.
Now, let’s give Davido the benefit of the doubt because this case is alleged so far. This means we pretend for a moment that he never slept with this girl and the baby is not his. Even if we believe this, we do know that he does have a history of having unprotected sex with women he randomly meets for the first time, per his own claim, from the paternity scandal/mess from his first child’s situation. In this situation, that he couldn’t even account for who he had slept with so that he had to conduct a paternity test in the first place is telling.
Therefore, addressing just the specific issue of having unprotected sex and not caring about the repercussions, it seems to me that this is beyond just being a really stupid young man. It seems to me there might be some underlying psychological issues with Davido that his family and those who represent and are charged to protect him are either oblivious to or simply choose to ignore.
When a young man from a very affluent family is willing to:
- disgrace his family name and make his father the butt of jokes and insults, per cultural standards;
- despite his immense exposure globally, and education, have unprotected sex with strangers he meets randomly; and
- allegedly excuse his conduct, it seems to me there is something deeper going on here.
I highlight this issue because we don’t talk about mental health issues in the African community and certainly in the entertainment industry where many are just walking and ticking time bombs. We also think money resolves all problems, especially mental health issues.
Davido lost his mother in 2003. She was a University Professor in Lagos and he has been vocal about that deep loss and grief. Today is mother’s day in Nigeria, presumably that pain is even worse during special holidays like Mother’s Day. When he impregnated the first “groupie” as he called her and the many insults he rained on her, it didn’t stop him, contrary to Nigerian culture for a child born out-of-wedlock, especially where an affluent family is involved, to claim his child and fight so relentlessly to not only keep her, but take her away from his mother. His fight landed him in the hospital. He also named his child after his deceased mom.
When he impregnated the first “groupie” as he called her and the many insults he rained on her, it didn’t stop him, contrary to Nigerian culture for a child born out-of-wedlock, especially where an affluent family is involved, to claim his child and fight so relentlessly to not only keep her, but take her away from his mother. His fight landed him in the hospital. He also named his child after his deceased mom.
Through it all, we’ve never heard and he has never discussed actually obtaining counseling for his loss. Maybe it’s time to do so because you can’t love your child as much as you claim you do and be this reckless with your life and that of others. Something is off and as I said in my previous writings, his father needs to get very serious about reeling his son in and getting him the help he needs. The men in his life cannot fill that void of a mother. His sister who has been the center of drama involving his first child is now married with her own life and family, and may not be equipped to help, I mean she also most likely grieves the loss too. He needs counseling.
His actions are self-destructive and VERY dangerous to him and others that he engages in this reckless unprotected sexual acts.
As a final note, with Davido’s deep roots as an American citizen, his assets and continued ties in America, he knows or should know that there are now laws that make it a crime to sleep with someone when you become aware that you have a sexually transmitted disease, and not tell them.
Read excerpts of the alleged third baby mama’s statements below.
I asked Davido to wear condom but he refused –Alleged baby mama
“The reason I slept with him the first time we met was because I just wanted to catch my fun. The day we met at the club, Ebevande, I was with my friends, I did not really know him then but I just knew he was an artiste. I went out with my female friends; we had like a ladies night out; then one of his bouncers came to meet me and told me that his boss wanted to see me. I actually thought it was the owner of the club that wanted to see me. When I got to where they were, I noticed that it was David and he was with B. Red. I greeted both of them, B. Red did not respond but David did and we talked. He collected my pin and asked me to return to my seat. When they were about to leave, the bouncer came to meet me again and informed me that they wanted to leave. My friends thought we were all going together but when we all got to the car, he asked my friends to go back. He said that I was the one he wanted to see.
“We went to the Genesis Hotel. When we got to the room, we talked for a long while before we had sex. He is a very jovial person and he loves talking. He made me laugh a lot and we talked at length. B. Red was in the other room. I insisted that he should protect himself by wearing a condom before sex but he refused. He said that he does HIV test every two weeks.Then I asked him how sure he was that I did not have any disease but he said he was very sure I did not have a disease. After he had said all that, I told him to just do what he wanted to do and allow me go home in the morning. That night, he had sex with me twice. You would know he was in the mood to have sex that night and it lasted for a while. He has a big manhood and it hurt me a little. The second time was when he noticed I was leaving in the morning and he just wanted to have sex with me again.
“The second time, the sex did not last long because he was very tired and he did not even know when I left the hotel. I do not drink or smoke but David drinks and smokes. He drank and smoked in the club” she alleged.
The Punch Newspaper has the full story.
Photo credit: Punch
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