Today, we’re going to be talking about how to make a relationship POWERFUL.
I am REALLY excited to share this information with you because these cool quick tips are pretty easy to implement, very easy to understand, and if everybody had these understandings and structures inside their relationships, there would be a whole LOT more love out in the world.
So, I hope that these tips resonate with you. I hope you enjoy them. I hope that you take and implement them into your own relationships.
This is all about how to make your relationship powerful. As in, how to step into a new relationship inside your power, as well as how to set up that relationship for success.
The first thing you have to know, is that when you are first cultivating a new relationship, you need to make sure to maintain your relationship with yourself.
You can’t get lost in your new and exciting love, even though it’s very easy to do.
This is a common problem. What happens is we give too much of ourselves, lose our identity, and lose the person who our potential love or long-time partner was initially interested in.
A lot of people, when they enter into a new relationship, they are doing all these GREAT things in their lives.
But then, they stop caring so much about all of them so that they can fully commit to the relationship. That’s shooting yourself in the foot. It puts an unnecessary amount of pressure on your new relationship and partner. Overall, it’s a VERY common toxic behavior.
So, the first tip is to maintain your relationship with yourself.
Keep developing yourself. Keep your interest at heart. Keep moving forward in your life and enjoy sharing that and your mutual growth with your partner.
That brings me to tip number two, which is that you want to co-create your intentions inside of the relationship.
Now, this is how two powerful individuals come together to create something even GREATER than their own individual lives. It’s by maintaining their relationship with themselves, but then co-creating something together that is on a whole new level.
The way you do that is simply by having a conversation. What is my intention for entering into this relationship? How do I want to positively impact your life and how would I like to see you positively impact my life?
Relationships are not only about getting the snuggles that we want or, having someone to help us with our chores or, someone to help us through our problems. It’s about having a real stand for you in the world outside of yourself.
It’s for having another person who stands for your GREATNESS, who aligns with your vision of your potential future and everything that you want to achieve in your own life. You are that for that person as well.
This initial conversation and, quite literally, should be:
“I intend to go into a relationship with you and to co-create an amazing future.”
Then, you set up what that looks like. How can we support each other?
Once you do that by maintaining your relationship with yourself, you are clear on what it is that you want, where your path is going, and how this person can support you.
It all comes from your relationship with yourself being developed FIRST. Now, you are co-creating and coming together with these clear personal intentions to say:
“This is how we can support each other for even greater success”.
Then that brings tip number three, which is now that you have entered into the relationship, you need to learn how that person receives love.
There is a book called “The Five Love Languages”. I’m not sure of the title, but it breaks it down to a very simple way to understand.
There is essentially five different ways that people receive love inside a relationship. Everybody is different and most people have one primary way and a secondary important way as well.
So, the five ways, to make a quick list for you is:
Acts of service — having things done for you
Physical touch — the physical intimacy
Quality time — spending time together
Words of affirmation — getting affirmed that you are doing good things in the world, or that you are achieving what you want, or that you are a great person (whatever it may be)
Gifts — receiving and giving gifts
Those are the five ways that people receive love…
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