The article below (excerpt provided) written by 360nobs.com’s Esther caught my attention, particularly because of its suggestion that Ruggedman (music and fashion entrepreneur and rapper) sanctions domestic violence against women. Below is an excerpt:
“A few weeks back, Ruggedman was on twitter sharing his points on how a woman can keep a man. At the end of it all it was just the same old balderdash on how to keep the woman beneath the man. In one of his drivel, he mentioned that if a woman cannot submit she should be ready to be beaten (para-phrased)!
He must have thought himself very virile and heroic to say this. The fact that a celebrity rapper will come out and justify violence in this manner is just pathetic; more pathetic are the people who applauded him for this sham of a list. So in the world where Ruggedman lives, a woman deserve to be hit, whipped and beaten if she doesn’t submit? Ah well, I won’t say I’m surprised, this is Ruggedman we are talking about, abi?
But away from the stupid rant of an average and emotionally insecure rapper, what really made me write this was after I watched the video about Violence supported by the very amiable Toyin Saraki. In that video, we had Frank Edoho’s wife, Catherine; and Zaki Adzay’s wife share their tale of abuse in the hands of their husbands.
It is a shame, a disgrace that in this era we have to deal with men who think that the only way to be a man, be the head and stamp their authority is to lift their hands to hit their women! And to have celebrities directly or indirectly support this act is so sickening! . . .”
Folks, what the author refers to is the following statement tips by Ruggedman on how women can save their marriages from divorce:
“The rate at which marriages/relationships collapse now is assuming a social symbol status in our society. . . In few years time, people will be throwing divorce parties and invite friends and well-wishers to celebrate their divorce anniversaries.
They will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians.
Even a question like “So when r u getting divorced?’ will become commonplace.
If you know you can’t handle the weight and pressures of marriage, please remain single.
If you don’t know what marriage is all about, please remain single until you do.
If you r getting married because of the things you desire or hope to gain from the other person, or to satisfy your fantasies, please remain single.
If you know you can’t be faithful, remain single.
Don’t get married out of desperation, because you think you are getting too old.
Don’t just get married because of the pressures from your families. They are not the ones getting married- you are!
You desire a successful home, but if your choice of friends are those whose marriages have collapsed, It is simple – they’ll make you drink from their poisoned chalice.
Once that happens, your marriage is in a process of dying a slow death.
Be very mindful of where you go 4 advice.
Guys, if u know you can’t stay responsible please remain single until you mature.
There’s no way you can abandon the care of your family at the expense of your lifestyle.
They are your priority n everything else including you comes last.
You are the teacher, guide, bodyguard, spiritual leader, role model. NOT A DEITY!
So don’t expect to be worshipped. You earn respect by being responsible.
Ladies, if you know you can’t be submissive please don’t go into marriage so you’re not turned to a punching bag!
If you know you can’t stand being corrected, please marry yourself.
Don’t throw your spinsterhood garment away if you see respect as a big deal! ” – Ruggedman
Should a single man who has never been married be dishing out unsolicited advice to married women? What makes him the authority for such so called tips? Also, is Ruggedman, by his statement underlined above, sanctioning domestic violence against women? You be the Judge.
Read the full 360Nobs.com article.