“Mom!” I screamed excitedly over the phone, hoping I was not hurting her ears from all that noise. “Yes,” she responded. “There is this Nigerian journalist who contacted me today asking that I share her article on my platform. Her article reminded me of what you have always told us growing up,” I gushed.
“Really, what is it about?” She responded in a curious tone.
“Well, she talks about African moms essentially not forcing or placing pressure on their daughters to get married and to let it be an organic process. She also talks about how ridiculous it is that these moms with accomplished, educated daughters expect their children to downgrade who they are so they can attract husbands,” I concluded.
“God bless her for that,” my mom respond. “Yes. It is wrong and unfair for parents to do so. They strip these young women of their confidence and make it seem that every significant thing they have done is of no value unless they are married. Many times these children end up marrying under these kinds of pressure and end up suffering in those relationships,” my mom concluded.
Folks, I am glad China wrote this article. It is timely and I hope that we (single ladies) begin ridding ourselves of nonsensical expectations that prey on our vulnerability and those that say we are not quite good enough because we are unmarried. Have you looked into the lives of those pressuring you to get married lately? You don’t wanna know what happens behind closed doors.
African Moms: Be Patient with your Unmarried Daughters