Do you all recall my discussions with you when Peter Okoye of P-Square proposed to his girlfriend of seven years? She has two children by him, had granted an interview saying how great a man he was and a great father. His fans felt she was “parading” an alleged good man in front of them. Accordingly, they asked the obvious question, “if he is that good, what’s the hold up? Two kids later and you still can’t make him put a ring on it.” Omotayo was obviously upset and she took to twitter to strike back at these fans and also said she did not need marriage, neither did she need it to validate her. Shortly after, Peter proposed.
When Peter proposed, I addressed Omotayo’s statements and made clear that you can practice all the liberalism, feminism, womanism or “nisms” you want, whether it be here or in Nigeria. However, when you have children, two for that matter, by an African man, specifically a Nigerian, out of wedlock, it is irrelevant what your “feelings” are or whether you “need” marriage or not. The central focus ought to be on the children and how you protect their interests and rights, against a legal justice system and patriarchal society that will take them to the cleaners once their father passes on; when it comes time to claim their inheritance. Children born out of wedlock are simply not recognized under Nigeria’s inheritance laws. Also, even in the case where they are not born out of wedlock, widows and their children go through hell with their kinsmen just to lay claim to what they are legally entitled to. How much more a woman showing up with kids out of wedlock and wanting to claim something. The common saying “are you mad?” is what they should expect to be greeted with.
My analysis was rather extensive. Check out the story below in case you missed it:
In any event, two months later after my discussion with you all, and now it plays out in the case of Bianca Ojukwu v. Ojukwu’s relatives where the relatives are demanding she prove she was legally married to their brother/son. “Jisos!”
I tell you it ain’t easy being a woman in that part of the world, not at all. We have a long way to go, really.
“Some members of the late Ikemba of Nnewi, Chukwuemeka Odimegwu Ojukwu’s family have asked his widow and Nigeria’s Ambassador to Spain, Mrs. Bianca Ojukwu, to show proof that she was legally married to Ojukwu.
In a 19-paragraph statement of defence filed by Ojukwu Transport Limited and seven others before Justice Funmilayo Atilade of the Lagos High Court, the family equally demanded proof from Bianca that her two sons, Afamefuna and Nwachukwu, were biological sons of Ojukwu.
The other defendants are Prof. Joseph Ojukwu, Mr. Emmanuel Ojukwu, Lotanna Putalora Ojukwu, Dr. Patrick Ojukwu, Mr. Edward Ojukwu, Lota Akajiora Ojukwu and Mrs Massey Udegbe (doing business under Massey Udegbe & Company).
Bianca had in suit No- LD/1539/2012 filed on behalf of her two under-aged children, Afamefuna and Nwachukwu (claimants), wanted the court to declare that her children are entitled to the possession and occupation of the property known as No. 29, Oyinkan Abayomi Street, Ikoyi, Lagos, until the harmonisation of the management and administration of the assets of the first defendant (OTL).
At the resumed hearing of the suit Wednesrday, counsel to Bianca and her children was not in court, which necessitated Justice Atilade to adjourn the suit till December 10, for adoption of written addresses on a Motion on Notice seeking to restrain the defendants from the property in dispute.
Bianca’s children had through their lawyer, Chris Ezugwu, prayed the court to declare as illegal the threat of forceful ejection from No. 29, Oyinkan Abayomi Street, Ikoyi, Lagos by the defendants.
In addition, they urged the court to declare that they are entitled to possess the following properties, namely: No 13, Hawksworth Road, Ikoyi (now known as No. 13 Ojora road); No 32A Commercial Avenue, Yaba, Lagos; No 30 Gerard Road, Ikoyi, Lagos and No. 30 McPherson Avenue, Ikoyi.
Bianca’s children stated that throughout the period their father was struggling to retrieve the properties from the government, the second to seventh defendants “never played any role in the struggle nor contributed financially or otherwise to the realisation of the struggle.”
Besides, the claimant is asking for an order of court restraining the defendants, their agents or privies from interfering with the claimants’ possession and control of the properties.
But, in their statement of defence, the 1st to 7th defendants through their lawyer, George Uwechue (SAN), averred that the subscribers of the memorandum of association of Ojukwu Transport Limited (1st defendant) at incorporation in 1952 were L P Ojukwu and Betram Chukwuemeka Obi, adding that the late Ojukwu and one Prof. Joseph Ojukwu (2nd defendant) were later appointed as directors in 1953. . .”
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