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The Case of The Ex: Tiwa Savage, Gabrielle Union, Why Do Women Pop Out of the Woodwork Once A Man Looks Happy?

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Dwayne Wade and Gabrielle UnionSo I am sure by now everybody has heard about the open letter to Gabrielle Union, written by one of Dwayne Wade’s alleged groupies. If you haven’t, please find an excerpt of the letter below.

“So its only right i put Dwayne Wade on blast. First and foremost i’d like to thank ***** Wade, his cousin for booking my numerous of flights. 

Ohh yea, hi Ms. Union. Good too see you stuck around and have a few more pieces of clothing inside of his house. The kitchen looks great by the way. I love the new counter tops. I would also like to thank Rich, the chef for his amazing breakfast. His cookies are the best.

And last but not least I’d like to thank Dwayne for always making me feel comfortable on your side of the bed. Hiding pictures in your drawer. You know the night stand next to your side of the bed, the one with the two drawers. Think the picture is the one with you and Sanaa Lathan in it. 

Also Gabrielle you are a little to old to be making Valentines day Photo albums. Leave that to the young girls your man cheats on you with. Dont believe me, i took a picture of the picture.”

 

The rest can be found at the following link: Media Takeout Link.

The following was Gabrielle Union’s response on twitter:
Gabrielle Union Responds to Groupie
I was quite impressed with her response as Union has been through a lot in her relationship with Dwayne Wade. When the two initially started dating, Wade was still married to ex-wife and mother of his children Siohvaughn Funches. In 2011, Wade’s wife sued Union for intentional infliction of emotional distress, alleging that Union and Wade engaged in extreme and outrageous conduct that they knew or should have known would have an adverse emotional effect on Wade’s minor sons. Funches claimed that this conduct caused her and Wade’s oldest son extreme stress and anxiety which led to nervous habits, headaches, and hair loss. The court eventually dismissed these claims as frivolous and unfounded.

Divorce can be an extremely emotional and heart breaking process. But when people start playing games in order to hurt each other, it makes you wonder if it’s actually a legal process or a war. Where a divorce is peaceful, a man can almost always be guaranteed a war should he openly begin a relationship with another woman. I don’t know what it is about seeing an ex-lover happy but it sure does seem to drive women all around the world crazy.

It seems that whenever a man in the spotlight appears to be happy, an ex jumps out of the woodwork, attempting to make the new woman look like a man thieving hussy. Most of the time the ex just ends up ridiculing herself and coming off as plain old bitter. They take to the news openly chastising these men. Some are more cowardly, secretly sending private information and pictures to bloggers who claim they obtained the information from an “anonymous but reliable source.” If he has moved on, why don’t you? Is it a cry for pity? Or is it an attempt to ruin the man or the new woman’s reputation?

Tiwa Savage and Tee Billz
Tiwa Savage and Tee Bilz Engagement
Recently, Don Jazzy owned Mavin Record’s First Lady Tiwa Savage was proposed to by her long time boyfriend and manager, Tee Billz. In the middle of her birthday celebration at Eko Hotel and Suites in Lagos, Nigeria, Tiwa’s long time bobo knelt before a room of celebrities and asked Savage to marry him. Although many people have insinuated that the two were secretly engaged long before the open proposal, the video below shows a surprised Savage rushing into her boyfriend’s arms where he knelt. If the rumors are true then Tiwa gets my vote for an Oscar this year.

It seemed that all was well in Savage land. Everyone was so happy for her; everyone except Tee Billz’s baby momma. There has been talk for the longest time about the complexity of Tee Billz’s relationship status and some clarity was recently delivered via Stella Dimokorkosus’s blog.

It would appear that Tee Billz’s baby momma has leaked personal pictures of herself and the children that she shares with Tee Billz, claiming that Billz used her and squatted with her in the US before leaving her for the greener shores of Nigeria (Naija). I am not sure what these pictures or these statements are supposed to mean. Did she really do this? If she didn’t, where did such personal pictures come from? Is this a jab at Tee Billz or a jab at Tiwa Savage because it sure looks like a jab to me. So in order to make this woman happy all of Tiwa’s fans should pull out the pitch forks and start a Mavin CD bonfire?

What does a celebrity do when faced with this kind of situation?
If you are the scorned lover or ex, it is better to just shut up. I know it hurts, we all do. Watching your ex happy with someone else makes you wonder what it was about you that just did not work. But the media is not the best place to voice your personal opinions. These gossip websites and bloggers do not care about your feelings. You end up making a spectacle of yourself, giving people fresh gist to spread about you.

Remember, unlike other people your life is lived in the spotlight and fans are not the ones to forget events or information that can be considered scandalous.

If you are the new lover, the same advice applies to you. Although I did like Gabrielle Union’s response, it can be interpreted as somewhat childish. I preferred Tiwa Savage’s response of silence. Sometime silence truly is the best answer for a fool.

-Enze

Photocredit: Gabrielle Union/World Redeye

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Ollachi Holman

AML intern Ollachi Holman aka “Enzé is a recording artist commonly affiliated with Syndik8 Records. She has been featured on tracks with the likes of Lynxxx, 2Shotz and MI, and has had a few cameos in clubs and albums. A recent law school graduate from the University of Houston Law School, she is pursuing a career in Entertainment Law. Look for her posts on on Mondays and Wednesdays in the AML categories of "Music Law" and "Celebrities Behaving Badly", now until May 2013. Please give her your feedback and let her know how she is doing, what you like and don't like. Thanks!

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5 Comments

  1. Ollachi,

    Interesting article. I disagree with some of the points you raise.

    First I do agree that the ex’es who come out and the manner they do, usually, on its face, appears to yield no meaningful results.

    However, I am wondering why we are not asking the more important question of women like Tiwa Savage and Gabrielle Union? What is it about Tiwa or Gabrielle that makes them think they cannot attract and keep baby mama drama free men??

    In Union’s case, you boldly state “When the two initially started dating, Wade was still married to ex-wife and mother of his children Siohvaughn Funches.” Really? And this is okay?

    For Tiwa Savage, why be with a man that has such baby mama drama mess with kids that are still relatively small? It is even more complicated because that is her manager.

    These celebrities come into the limelight and paint a Cinderella story to their fans and media; and while it may make no difference to the ex who comes out and says, “hey, wait a minute, you have an obligation here, your kids,” it sure removes the wool out of our eyes. It also, I hope, at a minimum puts the pressure on the man to take care of his children, if he is not already. I am not sure how old the pics circulating on the internet with Tee Billz and his children are. However, if it is very recent, those kids are still babies ; and where he is accused of not providing for his children, he gotta sort that mess out.

    We saw this drama with Mercy Johnson and we’ve seen numerous times before. The idea that single women just have to get any guy i.e. married men and baby mama drama types, and still shoulder the burden of fighting off other women is ridiculous at best.

    In this groupie case for Union, I agree she is out of line and clearly on something. In the Tiwa Savage case, Mercy Johnson et al., that is a different story.

    But, we probably should let the tapes play out and see what happens. In the final analysis, it is their lives and they can choose to live it however they please. However, to expect a sense of privacy or empathy when they choose men with such baby mama drama issues is simply being unreasonable and asking for way too much, at least in my book.

    -Uduak

    1. Enze says:

      You’re very right Uduak. I won’t lie, when I read the article where Stella claimed she knew for a fact that Billz hadn’t spoken to his baby momma in 2 years, I thought “And that’s a good thing?” However we are not sure about how true that information is. If that man has not spoken to his children or the mother of his children in 2 years then YES it is sickening that another woman would encourage such behavior. After all, a woman should make you better. But I don’t know the details and that might very well not be the case.

      But I don’t believe it is a reflection on the self esteem of the women who get involved with men who are in relationships. Sometimes the men are already separated. In that case, I think he is fair game. It will be a complicated situation but if the two of you understand each other and seem to benefit each other, complicated seems much better than incompatible.
      Now if the man is married without any problems at home—errr I dunno what to say about that one oh.

      Relationships are complex because people are complex. You never know what is going on underneath the surface. And most times, women catch a bad wrap where they shouldn’t. Like you said, time will definitely tell

      1. I agree with not knowing what the deal is. In fact, it is why I stay out discussing relationships in general, unless children are involved. Indeed, relationships are very complex and people find “love” in different ways and these days, by any means necessary. To each his own. However, when children are involved, I am more of the opinion that you can be as selfish as you wanna be, but sort out the kids. I think for the ex’es, they should stop with the Naija style all out expose and employ the legal system to sort them out i.e. family law courts, child support et al.

        However, I am still not sympathetic to the Tiwa Savages of the world where a woman with babies shows up on the internet claiming your man fathered her babies. That, to me, is fair game. As a celebrity when you date men with these kinds of pasts, it comes with the territory and indeed they should take your advice and be quiet while their men clean up the mess their pasts have created. I am generally leery of exonerating men in this situation and instead pitying our fellow women against each other on the chopping block.

        -Uduak

  2. Foza says:

    Its a rather dicey topic and too much sentiments attached to this for me though. But if truly he has a baby mama i think tiwa would be fully aware and she had accepted it already so the ex from the woodwork is bitter.

  3. Nubienne says:

    I find that these women tend to come out of the woodwork because people want what is wanted. When a relationship ends, you may hear the words “Don’t nobody want to be with you anyway!”, usually from the woman lol. But when things change and someone really DOES want to be with the man, and he makes a commitment to the new girl that he didn’t make to the old, claws come out, and people get salty. I personally believe the best response is no response. Lions don’t answer when small dogs are barking.

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